Peer-to-peer conversations

While I was making this resource, Consent Academy suggested that I offer peer-to-peer conversations. Not as an expert or consent coach, just as a nurodivergent person who had the experience of being banned, going through an accountability process, and being unbanned. I’m just a person with lived experience.

Here’s a breakdown of what I’m offering and what I’m not

These sessions ARE

  • Think of these sessions as getting coffee with a friend who’s been there. You don’t have to mask or be on guard here.

  • Supportive: Doing an accountability process is some of the hardest work out there, and no one should have to do it alone. I’m happy to sit with you and agree that it’s hard and scary

  • Collaborative: I’m not here to teach you or coach you, and I’m not your therapist. When you come to me, we make something together.

  • Informal: It’s tough to be doing this work. I’m willing to validate that it’s hard.

  • Limited: I have a three-session per individual policy

  • Paid: I have a sliding scale to accommodate a variety of income levels and situations, and the first 15-minute consult is always free

These sessions are NOT

  • Repair work: I can’t guide you through how to navigate an accountability process or address harm, nor can I or should I take sides or get involved in ongoing incidents or processes.

  • Consent training: I’m not qualified to teach about consent or communication techniques and theories. I can only speak to my own lived experiences and what worked for me.

  • Formal diagnosis: I’m not a healthcare provider, autism specialist, or therapist. Please seek out the right professionals for you.

If this doesn’t sound like the right fit for you:

That’s ok! There are plenty of experts in the Community Resources section who would be happy to help you. The coaches I worked most closely with were Midori, Marcia Baczynski, and Sunny Megatron. Any one of them would be a fantastic place to start.

If this does sound like a good fit for you:

Go ahead and fill out the scheduling block below, and we can set up a 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit for each other.